Your Disability Does Not Define You with Kellina Powell

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My guest today is Kellina. Kellina is a young entrepreneur who loves to help people with their personal growth and educate others about the deaf community.

Little do people know, Kellina is actually a hard of hearing person. She became deaf at the age of four, and she recently graduated with a psychology degree and is now starting her own online coaching business while launching her book. So, we're gonna get into this conversation and we're gonna hear more about her story of becoming hard of hearing at the age of four.

So let's go ahead and get into the conversation.

Bianca: Hello Kellina.

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Bianca: I'm so excited. Welcome to the “It Didn’t Break Me” podcast. I'm very excited to hear your story. Um, uh, I really don't know much about your story. I know kind of a gist of it, so I kind of like that I'm learning as everyone as a listener is learning. So we're gonna go right into it. What is something you thought would break you but it didn’t?

Kellina: Something that didn't break me, that didn't break me is me being deaf at age of four. Um, yeah, some of you are probably like, wait, what? Kellina is deaf? Yes, I am deaf. So, you know, I did not allow my deafness to define who I am. Mm-hmm while growing up, I tried my best to not let anything affect my communication with the hearing community.

Bianca: Okay. So kind of tell us, take us back to what was that like? Because if I'm correct, you wasn't born not hearing, is that correct?

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I, yeah, it's very crazy. And home the same day when they did not follow instructions, I was in front of the tv, I was watching something and my mom tapped me on the shoulder and I just jumped. When I tell you, a four year old jumped, you know they got scared.

Bianca: Mm-hmm.

Kellina: so my mom went to go tap me and I said to my mom “I can’t hear you.” My mom’s like “Excuse me?” So my mom freaks out and mom was a young mom, she was like 19, 20 years old. And, um, she was just like, like, what? And so luckily my grandmother was a nurse at the time, she was a nurse. Mm-hmm. and, um, she came home from the hospital. Rushed in. She did different assessments with me and she sat down with me.

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Mind you, I could not hear at all what was happening. Like my family had to wake me up, my family had to physically move me to tell me like where I was going. They couldn't tell anything. And then, cause I can't read cause I'm four years old and I went to the family doctor I’m looking at my family doctor like crazy, like what is happening to me? And he looked at my mom and he shake his head.

And when he was saying, “I'm so sorry, there's nothing I can do. Kellina is deaf. It’s too late”. So that is how I became deaf.

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Kellina: No. Luckily we trust my family doctor. We've been with him since my grandma came to Canada. Okay, so, so we really trust him a hundred percent. So we knew that my doctor wouldn't lie to us. We are with him to this day and and I'm 25 right now so we’ve been with him since I was a baby. We hundred percent trust him.

So he had been our family doctor for over a decade. Okay.

Bianca: How come there was nothing they could do? Like how come it was just so sudden and then that was it? Did they say or

Kellina: no, it’s because it’s your ears, right? A lot of people don't understand your ears are just very sensitive. So if anything gets into it or anything like anything simple like water, get into it.

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Bianca: Oh, wow

Kellina: So my ears drums, they won’t, it was not like, there's nothing you can do unless they do surgery. But that's too risky for a four year old.

Bianca: Wow. So you find this out and you're four, and I don't know how much you remember, but what do you remember upon learning this? Like, do you even comprehend?

Kellina: I was, I was crying a lot. I was very emotional. I didn't want the thing in my ear. I had no idea about what’s in my ear, um, I threw it in the garbage one time. Um, my family would, it was just, it was rough. It was really bad. For me, I was a rollercoaster. Mm-hmm. , I didn't know what was happening. I did different speech therapists and all that. There were a lot of doctors, professional doctors, and I'm confused.

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Okay, halftime. And then I went to a parent school halftime. So I was able to learn how to communicate with two different community, which is very cool because I was able to learn who I am within the two community. Okay. And I did. I did have a lot of difficulty in the hearing community. Mm-hmm. because no one knew about what it's like to be deaf.

No one was acceptable at all, had the deaf community. Unfortunately, I never had anyone that looks like me in the hearing community. Even just the hearing world, like it was just very tough support where my family pulled me out of the deaf school and put me in the hearing school full time. So that was something, it was not acceptable at all.

I was just really, it was really, really hard. Yeah.

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Kellina: it was just very hard. Right. My mom was in college at the time. My grandma was a nurse. She hadn't. And my aunt, she was, she was a teenager. My family's not gonna make my Aunt skip class just to pick me up in one school, drop me off to the deaf school and the school that, the hearing school was like two minutes walk.

So it's like, what's the point? So my family really had to help me and guide me through the home school by myself. How did

Bianca: that impact you then being taken out and then now being a hundred percent into. , the here school,

Kellina: um, affected my self-esteem. Mm-hmm. a lot. My confidence, it was very difficult. Like I, I used to learn sign language actually when I was younger mm-hmm.

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Mm-hmm. when you have a student that had a disability and unfortunately that was not the case. I had to consistently advocate for myself. And it was annoying. It was exhausting. And I know there are times where I lied to my mom and said I'm sick. I don't wanna go to school cause I'm I'm tired. It was really hard that it was a lot on my plate for a young age.

Bianca: Yeah, absolutely. Cuz you are having to figure this out in a hearing school, the teacher's not listening and you are still a child. That's not your responsibility in that sense to be advocating for yourself. Not hearing is one thing, but then having to advocate for yourself on top of it. Yeah. I wouldn't wanna go to school either.

That makes total sense. So how did you communicate with people in the hearing school?

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If I tell you may think, okay, but Kellina has hearing aids. I do have hearing aids, but sometime I won't pick up the full sentence with my hearing aid. First, it's reading lips. I feel like when I read lips I get a full sentence better than I can with hearing aids.

Bianca: Really. Okay. Yeah. Okay. How long have you had your hearing aid?

Kellina: Since I was four years old.

Bianca: Since you was four. And even though you were deaf, they still help with the hearing aid?

Kellina: Oh yeah, a hundred percent.

Bianca: Okay. Wow. That's interest. So it wasn't like a hundred percent your hearing aid gone. It was like, what, 95% or?

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Bianca: Okay. It's different. So you're in this place where you're in school, you're not wanting to go, you're advocating for yourself. Does it stay that way or? How do things turn around for you?

Kellina: It's still the thing, even though it's exhausting, I don't blame the hearing community at all because there's so many lack of education. Mm-hmm. , there should be more awareness and more education around it, but it got better, I would say. Okay. I, a lot of people are not ignorant like back in the day.

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Bianca: you've been able to kind of work through those self-esteem issues that you had. When you first were in the hearing school, like how did you work through that?

Kellina: Honestly, I had, um, a teacher with me, so she would, called and don't know the exact word, but teacher for, uh, we deaf student to have, especially if they're not going to a deaf school. Mm-hmm. . So there's like a deaf teacher comes in the hearing school for me and she guided me through everything.

Helped me advocate for me. Uh, teaching teacher worked me to be done. I did not have to do a lot of advocating. When I started to receive the teacher when I was in like four or five ish. Okay. So I was, I finally felt relaxed. I'm like, thank God, like I'm done. Like I'm really done. I was like, I'm done advocating for myself.

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Wow. And I said, you have to keep going. You know, and I was super young to have that type of conversation with my family. But again, it's something that I need to be talked about, especially if I'm going by myself in the real world. They really wanted to teach me really young. Mm-hmm.

Bianca: So that was middle school. I'm glad that you also got that support and that encouragement, cuz it sounds like it's enabled you to be independent. So how was high school and college?

Kellina: High school was a lot more hurtful than middle school that because I did have teacher doubted me to the point where I had my guidance counselor did not believe in me.

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I worked so hard to get here and now you're gonna push me back cause you think I could not, I'm not capable of doing it. So basically she wanted me to go to college first, but then my family had expectations of me going to university. Okay. And she, she, she thought I was not the right fit for university and that's why she did what she did.

Bianca: Wow. Yeah. I'm so sorry to hear that. Wow. It's okay. What happens after that in terms of University? She didn't do the grades. She didn't put it in. Did you end up going, like, what happened in that process?

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Bianca: Wow. I know you kind of mentioned this and I read that, you know, you don't want people to allow to let their disability to define them, and that also there are some things that people won't talk up about if they do have a disability because of the shame and, and misunderstanding.

So what are some of the challenges you had and others with a disability might have that they don't share or often talk about?

Kellina: I think disability is a very vague term. Okay. Um, I tell people every, every disability doesn’t have to be physical, it can be non visible, it doesn't have to be seen. So I would say a lot of times people don't always talk about their disability, especially if they're not {inaudible}.

So if they hide. Like for example, for me, I. I didn't, I was not really open about my deafness until, I would say until I was 20. Okay. And so it takes time.

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Kellina: Yeah, definitely was the fear. Misunderstanding. No one. Definitely, because I would bully, was bullied as well right? Mm-hmm. . So obviously I'm gonna think that the next person I interact with might bully me or might {inaudible} down on me.

Bianca: Okay. Okay. So where would you say you are today?

Kellina: Right now, I'm happy where I am. I got a book released about me being, yeah, being deaf. It's on Amazon for those who are interested. My book is called: Every Day. I Am Just Deaf. It’s mixed with poetry, poetry and biography. Mm-hmm. Which is kind of cute. So it's a really short book, but really, it’s cute. And as well, I have my own coaching business. I am an international speaker advocate, so I teach people how to be inclusive of deaf people.

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Bianca: yeah. Okay. Okay. So one of the things you say, um, the reason why I'm sure, I don't know if that also relates to your book, is that you speak up cuz you don't want people's disability to define them and so you kind of share your story so people are not doing the same thing.

What are some ways people allow their disability to define them, and then how can you, they kind of get over that or work through that?

Kellina: That’s a good question, it's really about the mindset. Mm-hmm. It's super important to have that positive mindset. A lot of times people need to, especially those who have disability, like if you need help to speak with someone, go for it.

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So I'm so used to it, you know? And for me to speak about it, talk to someone about it, it's like it's not gonna so if they pushing mm-hmm. . And so the thing I would tell people a lot of time too, no, it, you have to keep going. You have to keep pushing. And sometimes people do a allow, allow themselves if they are in need of a help or something like that.

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Bianca: yeah, that makes Totally, that makes a lot of sense. So Kellina, is there anything you would like the listeners to know; anything you would like to leave them with?

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You have to live your life to the fullest, so, mm-hmm. That's the one thing I definitely wanna live out.

Bianca: Mm-hmm. I love that. So disability or not live your life. Exactly . And would you say you're living your life?

Kellina: Of course I am. Of course. Every day. Of course.

Bianca: You absolutely are. You absolutely are. And I love it.

So the question I always like to ask, people, the other question is, what is something that is messy in your life today?

Kellina: Uh, time management. Yeah. Just cause I have too much, I'm like, oh my God. Ok. I gotta get into time management.

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Kellina: Okay, so my coaching is open for people who don't have a disability. Cause I have came across a lot of people. I would like you to kind of coach me because I will understand their story better than anybody else, and because I've been through worse than they have, so I'll understand where they're coming from.

Bianca: Ah, I love that. Okay. Yeah, yeah. . So where can people find you, Kellina to shower you with love? How can they connect with you?

Kellina: Um, everybody can connect with me on Instagram, uh, Deaf Queen Boss, or on my website, which is Kellinaempowerment.com.

Bianca: Okay, thank you. And I will definitely put those, that information in the show notes so everyone can get that?

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Kellina: You're welcome.

Bianca: I dunno about you, but Kellina’s story is so needed and so necessary. I felt like, you know, I got this insight into a world I'm not too familiar with, um, and which I'm very grateful for and her sharing her story. So a couple of things. My takeaways is, first of all, how sensitive our ears are. I know they say stuff like, don't put the cotton bud all the way down your ear and things like that. You can hurt your eardrum, but it makes total sense. And I'm just really grateful for that knowledge, that wisdom and that understanding, um, and being more mindful of that with my own ears. So that was very eye-opening for me.

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